fozmeadows:

hungrylikethewolfie:

adragonwithbalanceissues:

I think my least favorite Hetero Trope is when the girl eats a burger or whatever and the dude is like “Wow, I like a girl who can eat” like what the fuck did your last girlfriend do, photosynthesis?

#also this isn’t news but what they mean is ‘I love a girl who can stay skinny but not annoy me with diet restrictions’  #men don’t actually love ‘girls who don’t go on diets’ or ‘girls who don’t wear makeup’ or ‘low-maintenance’ girls #what they DO love is women who can stay thin and flawless without ever having to reveal the effort behind it #it’s baffling to me! #like some Orwellian bullshit #you can’t knowingly demand women look a certain way and then complain when they go on diets lmao (via @halffizzbin)

Men like this want a certain performance of femininity from the women they date, but don’t want to ever look behind the curtain, because they want to indulge the fantasy that there IS no curtain. The woman is to be an immaculate doll, all self-maintenance conducted after hours and off-screen, so that his enjoyment of her persona is never sullied by the knowledge of its assembly. In this way, her humanity is made subject to his lack of emotional object permanence: if he cannot see her internal life, then it must not logically exist, and any subsequent outbursts or other social malfunctioning on her part have therefore come from nothing and nowhere. Women, he thinks, are just crazy like that. She’s lucky she looks so good to compensate.