vuvaliniterf:

sad-rad-siren:

nocturnalllesbian:

knaz16:

The first time women witness patriarchy is via fatherhood. By their “fathers”. That is the first man that will hurt you. Dehumanize you. That is the first man you will make excuses for. That is the first man you witness take down the tower of your life that is your mother. That is the first man you will blindly believe in. That’s the first man you will give female attributes to, saying he’s kind, and loving, trying to apply the humanity that exists inside of yourself onto this male, because maybe deep down you know, you understand, that if you admit he is male, then all men are too. Then you’ll have to admit that its all a lie. That is the first abusive relationship you will be in, that is the first in the long line of men that you will forgive.

Your “father” is the first man that men and their minion ladies will weaponize to shut down your feminism.

“Daddy’s girl” is the first type of handmaidenry you will be socialized into.

Whenever I see women who are attached to maleness who are loyal to males and defend them, they’re always “daddy’s girl”. Really, to them men as a class are extensions of their fathers; their allegiance to maleness is an extension of their servitude to fatherhood. They see men as the ones who rape and abuse them, but are still good, they’re still kind, because that’s their daddy. As if that means anything.

You cannot ever ever be liberated from maleness until you start where it began, with your father.

And when you see women that stan for males they will always use their fathers as an example of how to Stockholm syndrome yourself into thinking maleness is okay.

hope you dont mind me adding on a little from my own experience)

My father died when i was very young. I dont have any memories of him and sometimes i feel bad for actually being happy that he is gone. I hear so many good things about him from friends and family, but my mom showed me how he really was, even if she loved him. what you mentioned, i havent had the unfortune to go through it but sometimes it does hit me, what if he was alive today? i wouldnt be able to handle it. I hate my father for everything he stood for, he was never the hero everyone saw.

i know deep down that my dad considers me nothing more than his trophy of honor, thats why i cant leave the house, thats why i have to wear a scarf, so i don’t tarnish “his name”. he only views me as a gift he will give to another man. not even as an individual.

and i realize how deeply this submission is ingrained in women, cuz literally the only reason i hesitate to leave home and be independent is cuz im afraid of hurting him…. 

Unfriendly reminder that het marriages are more likely to fail if the couple has daughters, no sons. A lot of men don’t see the point in supporting their families if they fail to get their precious name and bloodline continued by a male child.

I’m 99 percent sure that my sister’s egotistical ex-husband wouldn’t have checked out of their marriage if they’d had just one son.